John Flaxman (1755–1826)
Good engineers write good code. But the best engineers cultivate and inspire their junior colleagues. If you are a senior engineer, you must learn to be a mentor. Especially if you are committed to diversity: mentorship is critical to the careers of women and minorities in tech. I have failed at mentoring, then succeeded. Learn from me and march to mentorship triumph.
A Mandatory Skill
This essay, and my talk from which I adapted it, is influenced by John Allspaw's On Being A Senior Engineer:
Mature engineers lift the skills and expertise of those around them.
They recognize that at some point, their individual contribution and potential cannot be exercised singularly. They recognize that there is only so much that can be produced by a single person, and the world's best engineering feats are executed by teams, not singularly brilliant and lone engineers....
At Etsy we call this a "generosity of spirit." Generosity of spirit is one of our core engineering values, but also a primary responsibility of our Staff Engineer position, a career-level position. These engineers spend the time to make sure that more junior or new engineers unfamiliar with the tech or processes we have not only understand what they are doing, but also why they are doing it. "Teaching to fish" is a mandatory skill at this level, and that requires having both patience and a perspective of investment in the rest of the organization.
Allspaw is Senior Vice President of Operations and Infrastructure at Etsy. He manages people like you and me, and decides if we are promoted. So if you are ambitious, pay attention when people like him say it is mandatory to demonstrate skill at mentoring.
The word "mentor" is from the Odyssey.
The story goes that the warrior Odysseus left his wife Penelope and his infant son to fight in the Trojan War. He spent ten years at the siege of Troy, and, cursed with atrocious luck, he took ten more years to sail home. Unfathered, his son Telemachus did not mature into a warrior. His home was invaded by frat boys who drank all the wine, ate all the food, and sexually harassed Penelope. (The translations conventionally call them "suitors".) Telemachus was too weak to throw them out. He literally could not draw his father's bow against them.
Athena, goddess of wisdom, craft, and war, saw the pickle he was in, and came to earth to help. They traveled the country, met kings and soldiers, and Athena taught Telemachus the courage he needed to be a man. But she did not appear as a goddess: she disguised herself as an old friend of his father's, named Mentor.
So a mentor is not one who "ments". The word is from a person named Mentor. The young person coached is not a "mentee". Luckily there is no need to use an ugly non-word, because this is an ancient role with many names: apprentice, protégé, pupil. I call someone I mentor my telemachus.
These days, Athena does not descend to guide young coders. Not unless you embody her: you must be Mentor.
Your Career, Their Careers
John Allspaw says mentoring is mandatory for your career advancement. And junior engineers' careers depend on your generous mentorship, too. More than college, more than GPA, perhaps more than talent, what matters to an engineer's career is who mentors her. It certainly was so for my career: I am a moderately talented coder with a bachelor's in computer science, but I was a sorry engineer in my first job. It was not until I worked closely with Olivier Pomel and Alexis Lê-Quôc, then at Wireless Generation, that I learned how to be a professional.
Your Company's Future, Our Industry's Future
Your company's future depends on you, too. You need senior engineers and there are not enough to go around. Bringing up young coders is a huge, risky investment, but it's the only way we have to make senior engineers.
The same holds for our whole discipline: mentoring is how we raise the next generation of software engineers, who will have the next ideas, found the next companies, invent the next programming languages. Besides, at many companies, including mine, there are few women and minorities, and men hold most of the senior engineering roles. We must mentor women and minorities so they can grow into senior roles; it is our best weapon to fight for a fairer future.
As the National Center for Women and IT says, mentoring and sponsoring women is a top strategy to promote gender diversity:
Men recognized the need for women to be mentored by senior leaders, noting
from their own experiences that all employees—regardless of gender or cultural
background—can benefit from a leader who advises them and looks out for them.
Similarly, the men also talked about the importance of sponsorship, which goes
further than mentoring. As one leader explained: "A sponsor is really looking much longer-term for the person, helping them get to new
positions in the company, looking out for them over a longish period of time."
When I began guiding junior programmers, I failed immediately. I shirked my responsibilities and pretended things were going fine. I failed, everyone was mad at me, and I vowed never to mentor again.
Icarus Falling, Jacob Peter Gowy (1615–1661)
In retrospect there were warnings, circumstances that set me up to fail.
It was the summer of 2013, and MongoDB had a cohort of interns arriving in need of projects and supervisors. A colleague said, "We should do something cool with big data." But he would not lead it himself. Reluctantly, I agreed to supervise two interns on this project. Without the original visionary present, the internship was rudderless. There is no substitute for the person who had the idea. I will not again agree to lead a project with an absent visionary.
The original idea, "something cool with big data," had no clear goal and no steps. Since I was not the visionary, I could not come up with any. I thought, "I'll run the internship agilely. We'll just choose a big data set and see what happens, make it up as we go." But agile is not the same as no goals. We never arrived at a rigorous description of the project nor measures of success, so I could not evaluate whether my interns were productive.
I am expert at some things, but I am not a big data man. My interns were actually quite skilled: one was a double major in computer science and finance, and they were both competent with Hadoop. So what they did impressed me, but I did not know if it was impressive because they were doing well, or if it was just because I could not understand what they were doing. I hesitated to question them. They moved fast but no one was steering.
I hid from my interns. I avoided them in the office, or worked from home. We met barely once a week. I procrastinated answering their messages. Time and again they complained they were unguided, but I did not change. I knew I was failing but I pretended not to know. I hoped to muddle through the summer and never oversee interns again.
My managers were watching me founder and they issued ultimata: get involved, make goals, get the project on track. I never did. With only weeks left in the summer, Intern Protective Services reassigned my apprentices to Mike O'Brien, who maintained the MongoDB Connector for Hadoop at the time. He canceled the remainder of our inchoate project and had my interns add features to the Connector instead. He gave them clear goals, supervised them expertly, and saved the internship from total loss.
It is a great blessing of my career that MongoDB's management gave me another shot at mentoring.
I did not know it was a blessing then. When my boss told me, right after my humiliating summer, that I would have to oversee a new hire, I was furious. And the reason for my fury was my fear. I could handle an apprentice no better than a baby handles a python.
Baby Hercules with a snake, Roman, 2nd Century CE
But this second apprenticeship was a turnaround. The summer's circumstances had set me up to fail, but now the circumstances led me and my telemachus to triumph.
When new hires join MongoDB they rotate through four teams for about six weeks each, feeling out where they fit. My apprentice was a gifted young woman named Amalia Hawkins, who had just graduated. She worked with me on PyMongo, the code I know best. I could expertly evaluate her patches and guide her as she learned the code.
Small, Clear Goals
Since PyMongo was an established project with a backlog, its maintainer Bernie Hackett and I could start Amalia with easy features and bugs until she found her footing, then challenge her with more complex tasks. At each stage we had a clear problem statement and criteria. I always knew when Amalia was productive or stuck.
I know PyMongo's roadmap, and Bernie has been its guiding visionary for years. Together we ensured that Amalia's contributions kept PyMongo on track. It is not enough to simply complete tasks. The visionary knows whether a bug is fixed or a feature is implemented in a way that advances a project toward its long-term goals.
Amalia and I like each other and became friends. Do not underestimate the importance of personal comfort and compatibility. We are professionals who program machines, so we sometimes think it does not matter how it feels to work with another person. But I must be simpatico with my pupil or the relationship fails.
I give you permission to mentor only the junior engineers you click with. Tell your boss whom you want to mentor and stick with the people you enjoy. Your organization should have a graceful way to reassign mentors. There is no point trying to develop a close relationship with someone who doesn't appeal to you.
It was Amalia's idea that I should speak and write about mentoring, so I asked her what she observed me learn when she was my apprentice. How did I improve, why did we succeed? She identified the following:
Be Eager To Help
Or at least always appear eager.
I grouch when my peers interrupt me. But an apprentice is different, I cannot discourage him from asking for help when he is stuck. Stuckness is a total waste. Teachers and pupils alike overvalue "being independent" and "figuring it out on one's own." A stuck apprentice produces no new information: he is not learning, and I am not learning how skilled he is. Nothing happens until he is unstuck. There is not enough time in a summer internship, or a six-week rotation, or a life to waste on stuckness. My apprentice must not be afraid to come to me immediately.
Know What Your Apprentice Does Not Know
There are just as many questions that your telemachus does not know to ask. She does not know what she does not know. In my experience, new professionals do not know how to submit clean patches that fix one bug or implement one feature. They do not really get how to use git for code reviews and pull requests. They do not know what maintainable and legible code is. They do not know how to approach a very large old codebase, nor how to obey semantic versioning. In other words, university has taught them computer programming, not software engineering.
Now I anticipate these lacks and teach my apprentices the principles they need, just before they need them.
Admit You Do Not Know
Amalia told me that "most people just pretend omniscience, which is super frustrating." A humble mentor is approachable. Not knowing gives the apprentice permission not to know, either. I model being comfortable showing my knowledge gaps.
Besides, whenever I suffer imposter syndrome, it cripples me: I pretend to know more than I do, and I would rather hide from my apprentice than be caught out. It is not until I drop that act that I am no longer afraid.
But the real advantage of admitting you do not know is, it brings on the most valuable hour of the apprenticeship.
I wish it were different, but there is only an hour or so, in the course of a summer or a six-week rotation, when we solve a problem together. Almost the whole value of the apprenticeship is in this hour. After all, when my protégé asks me a question and I know the answer, it is not much different from Stack Overflow or a textbook. But when I cannot answer, we have to solve the problem together.
Problem-solving cannot be explained. Not in general. But you and I, if we have been debugging software for years, we know how to solve problems in general. We cannot really explain how, but this knowledge is transmissible. It is precisely this knowledge that apprenticeships are designed to transmit. So seek problems to solve together and when it happens, relish it. Soak together in it. Do not waste it.
Ask Your Apprentice's Help
Find ways for your apprentice to mentor you. It requires a conscious effort, because you are so much more experienced. But seek her advice on your work. I ask Amalia and other protégés to critique my talks and articles.
Have your telemachus code-review your patches. He might not have useful comments, but when you trade places he sees what it is like to review a diff: he sees why it matters that a patch is clean, that it focuses on a single bug or feature, that it is well-described and coded simply. When you swap positions again, he will give you patches that are easy to review.
I failed when I first supervised interns and I announced I would not supervise again. But the fall I spent working with Amalia changed my view: I can be an effective mentor, given the right conditions. So I designed an internship for the next summer with conditions optimized for success. I proposed that two interns revive Monary, a specialized driver for NumPy and MongoDB.
Monary was invented by David Beach, who wanted to load MongoDB data into NumPy arrays faster than PyMongo can do it. Once Monary did what David needed, he put the project down. I thought it was a nifty piece of software and I wanted to update it, fix bugs, add features, and make it easier to use. My proposal was accepted and I was assigned Matt Cotter and Kyle Suarez as interns for the summer.
I had most of the expertise required to supervise the project: Monary is a driver for MongoDB and Python, and I am an expert on that. But Monary is part-written in C. So I recruited Jason Carey, a master C programmer at MongoDB, to help.
Small Clear Goals
Monary is an established project of a well-known type: it is a MongoDB driver. Drivers have a list of features they can support, so Jason and I picked features from the list and added them to the project. Having small goals brought two advantages: it kept Matt and Kyle on track and made it quick to diagnose when they were stuck, and it also let us divide the work so we could evaluate their performance separately.
Jason and I had ideas for Monary's future, but the visionary was its inventor, David Beach. David video-conferenced with our team regularly to guide our contributions. He was the ultimate reviewer of patches: Once Jason and I approved a patch, our interns submitted it to David.
Nike, goddess of victory, Kharkiv, Ukraine
Matt and Kyle triumphed. They made exceptional progress that summer adding features, improving the code, and writing documentation. They gave a talk about Monary at a Python conference. The interns' contributions enhanced MongoDB's edge among scientific Python programmers: MongoDB has the fastest path between the database and NumPy. David was grateful to have his project revived and promoted. We made full-time offers to both interns and they accepted.
My investment in Matt and Kyle paid me huge dividends. They rated my mentorship very highly, which contributed to my promotion the next year. My bosses were confident in my mentorship now, so I was assigned another talented new grad, Anna Herlihy. Just this week Anna completed her rotations and returned to work on our Python code long-term. Having Anna working with me gives me the time and flexibility to direct my future at MongoDB, and I am directing it toward taking over our C Driver. Because I worked on a C project with Jason Carey over the summer, I am better prepared to make this transition.
I had failed just a year earlier, but the Monary project was as successful as an internship can be. It paid off not just for the interns, but for everyone involved, especially me. No innate quality of mine changed: I simply learned to recognize success's prerequisites, and I put them in place.
What if you believe that mentoring is important and you can succeed at it, but you still have excuses not to?
I Am An Introvert
Me too. Many programmers are. But introversion has nuances; it is not simply disliking people. In fact, introverts make good mentors. We prefer one-on-one interactions, we like predictability, we like to work toward goals with people instead of just hanging out. We are better listeners than gabby brainless extroverts are: when a novice joins a large company he needs someone who listens and understands him, who looks out for him. So our traits favor success. We just have to overcome our reluctance and make the effort.
I Cannot Explain What I Do
This is the implicit knowledge that apprenticeships transmit. Your telemachus has spent years in college learning everything that can be explained. It is up to you to teach what cannot be explained, by working together tightly.
I Am A Bad Mentor
It takes practice. You are prone to early failures, like me, and to improve slowly. These early failures are very personal and embarrassing, but forgive yourself. Next time, ensure the prerequisites for success.
Get a meta-mentor. I learned the hard way, so I want to make it easier for others: with future internships I plan to train a colleague in mentoring at the same time as I train interns. Shadow another mentor first, and make sure your company sets up apprentices with both an experienced and a first-time supervisor.
I Still Don't Care, Just Let Me Code
I thought the same. When I first agreed to supervise interns at MongoDB, it was reluctantly. Only because we had such a need for supervisors, and because my bosses told me it was required of senior staff, did I agree. My impatience with mentoring is one reason I let everyone down that summer. My view of myself was that writing code was the only part of my job that gave me joy. Everything else was a distraction I had to reject, to guard my job satisfaction.
Mentoring does take time from coding, it is an investment, and you must commit to it if you are to succeed. But when you succeed you may transform your self-image as I did.
Masters And Apprentices
Craftspeople have always learned by apprenticing with masters. The master-apprentice relationship is older than professions—older than humanity, even. Universities are a recent innovation, and they are no substitute for the original training method.
If you commit to developing yourself as a mentor, you will advance your career, help your young colleagues and your company succeed, and lay the foundation for a fairer future. For people who think they love only code, it can be a sacrifice to spend time guiding junior engineers, but the success of your apprentices will be among the great satisfactions of your professional life.
Athena helps build the Argo, Roman, 1st Century CE